"I have a partner,yes," he admits. He makes a serious face and eats a clam. "It's not the passionate, stormy love you find in a Puccini opera or anything. We keep a careful distance from each oher. We don't get together that often, but we do understand each other at a deep, basic level.
Murakami- Kafka on the Shore

admitting that a relationship is flawed is so much better than deceiving the world and yourself that you have a perfect relationship.
been thinking alot.
its not even that i dont realise i deserve better.
its just that i can never phantom the thought of living without you.
i've been thinking of you on a daily basis i cant not think about you.it's a habit i've yet to break.


If you love someone, ask him for nothing. Don’t hold him from his destiny. Don’t keep him from going off in search of his own answers. Don’t ask him for commitment. You will know commitment is real when it is something given willingly, and not as something obligatory. Don’t ask him for promises. If you are patient, if you have faith, you will know in your heart when the right time for promises has come. And when that time arrives, then you will see that you have both lost nothing by setting each other free, and have instead gained a richer,fuller life, a wealth of experiences, and a stronger certainty of your desires.

But should he not return to you, then life hasn’t cheated you because no promises were broken. Your bitterness will not last long, and you will feel thankful and blessed that at the very least, this beautiful soul has colored your life, that knowing him has already made life infinitely more meaningful.

By setting a person free, you run a risk of him not returning. But always remember that you found him beautiful precisely because he was free. People are like sunlight. You can feel their warmth, and their glow, but you can’t hold them in your hand and keep them with you forever. People choose to stay. But a choice is made more meaningful when it is made despite so many other options.
— Ala Paredes (via themorninglight)